Welcome to Guest Tuesday- my fortnightly feature
Today, I am very happy to welcome a wonderful blogger to my space. Michelle Longo is a writer whom I met via NaBloPoMo in November 2013. Michelle has a unique style, a warmth which comes across through her candour and the way she uses words with a simple fluidity. She blogs over at The Michelle Longo and is currently working on her memoirs.
What makes Michelle even more special to me is the fact that I was introduced to Yeah Write through her where she is one of the editors. Yeah Write is a writer/ blogger support group, which takes its job very seriously. Aspiring writers derive great benefit from the weekly challenges and excellent support from fellow bloggers on the grid.
Please welcome Michelle who will speak today on the necessity and need for minimalist living. Thank you, Michelle, for writing this post.
Michelle Longo is a writer who lives with her husband and son in New Jersey.
I wouldn’t exactly call myself a minimalist. One look around my house and you would say I’m not one. We own hundreds of books, many hundreds of DVDs, and probably over a 1,000 CDs. My husband’s comic collection is substantial and my seven year old son’s collection isn’t too shabby either. I have a hard time getting rid of paperwork and office supplies, and my notes from my work in progress form a substantial pile!We have two bedrooms, a home office, a living room, a dining room, an attic and a basement and all of it has a decent amount of stuff in it.
I will say that I love the look of an empty room. Sometimes I think what drew me to this house, when we were looking to buy one, was that it was unoccupied and, as such, the rooms were pretty much empty. I love to see clear space, so I will admit I get a kick out of using up the food in the pantry and staring at the empty shelves I create. I recently sold most of what was in my attic and sometimes I sneak up there to stand in the open space, eager to have more of it.
A few years back, I did a complete wardrobe overhaul. I emptied my closet and all of my drawers. I got rid of everything that didn’t fit, wasn’t my style, or was in disrepair. This left me with almost nothing. I loved how empty everything was and after replacing the important stuff, it finally dawned on me that I really don’t need the majority of what I have. I had been drawn to minimalism before that, but I think the experience with my clothes really made clear the idea that I’m happier when I don’t have things everywhere I look.
I grew up in a house with a pack rat. My mother saved everything. In fact, when we were getting ready to sell her house in 2002, I found at least a dozen shopping bags filled with old electric bills. She saved every greeting card she ever received, every article of clothing she ever wore, and every lid to every food storage container, even if the container was nowhere to be found! I vowed I’d never live like that, but in the years that followed, I found it was much easier to save everything than it was to make decisions about what to keep and what to get rid of. In time, we ended up with a very full house.
In 2010, my family of three moved from one house to another. I couldn’t believe the stuff I had saved over the years. Things from my childhood bedroom were still in the boxes I had stored them in, untouched. A storage bin filled with some of those old electric bills from my mother’s house had been in my garage for nearly a decade! Because my husband and I thought we might want another baby, I saved all of the baby items from my first child. Maternity clothes, clothes from my pre-pregnancy weight (and my pre-pregnancy career), toys, games, books… you name it, we had it saved in a storage bin. When it came time to move to the new house, I was overwhelmed by what we had. We ended up just putting it all in the attic and basement to deal with later.
In the last year, I’ve made significant progress towards reducing what we own. People have told me that they wish they could clear out the clutter, but they don’t know where to start. I’ve learned a few things since I really focused on this project and I hope sharing them can help other people who are considering a similar journey.
|Our Attic- Before the Decluttering Exercise|
1. Start with what you know you don’t need. For me, that was the baby stuff. We no longer intended to have another child, so everything my son had outgrown (books, toys, games, clothes, furniture) was sold or donated or given away. Seeing how much room we gained by not storing these items was a big motivator to keep going.
2. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You don’t have to go on a wild de-cluttering spree and empty your house in one weekend. Pick one area and work there. I started with my attic, but you could start with a closet or a drawer or any area where the easiest stuff to purge is located. Then, once you’ve cleared a space, no matter how big or small, don’t fill it up again.
3. Find a system that works for you. I love a good system. When I first started, anything that needed to be stored for donation or sale at a later time went in the attic. After my huge yard sale this spring, that area is almost empty. Now, my “staging” area is in my basement since that area hasn’t been cleared yet. This is just an example. Find a system that works for you so you can monitor your progress and not backslide.
4. Speaking of backsliding, don’t bring in more stuff. I don’t buy new things unless they are necessary. I don’t shop just for fun and I try not to add to what we have. I replace what’s broken and truly necessary, but we don’t keep what we don’t need. I find this to be most difficult in my son’s room, as it seems toys and things keep finding their way here. I’m working with my son to focus on the kinds of toys he really enjoys and passing on other items to kids who would enjoy them more. I keep his wardrobe to the necessities and we monitor his things regularly to keep from acquiring too much.
5. Find your motivation. I have two major motivators. The first, morbid as it may be, is that should the time come when my son has to go through my things because I’m no longer here, I don’t want him overwhelmed by the volume. I want to do that work for him along the way. The other, more practical motivator is the idea that if I have to move again, I don’t want to move as much as I did last time. Every time I consider storing an item, I ask myself if I want to have to move it to a new house, whether that’s in 1 year or 10 years.
Usually the answer is 'No'.
|Our Attic- After the Decluttering Exercise|
It’s become apparent to me that I don’t need as much as society tells me I do. I want to be able to spend my time enjoying life, not cleaning or taking care of things. And I certainly don’t want to work so hard that I need more money to buy more space to store more things. Life is about making memories with those I love, not hanging onto the physical reminders of those things. In the months to come, I plan to continue getting rid of anything we don’t truly need so that we can truly enjoy the things we have.